One of the most important questions to ask yourself as you build or remodel your home is, “Are you ready to grow in your relationship? ” Sandy and I believe the answer to this question is vital to the overall success of your venture.
One of the most significant issues to consider relate to your family relationships. Whatever strengths or weaknesses you have in your relationship prior to building or remodeling will reveal itself during your project. If you and your spouse communicate well together you will construct a strong foundation. If you two make decisions together that are honoring and respectful of each other; you will create a sturdy framework to build a house from. Healthy, respectful communication is critical to success in a marriage and construction projects.
The opposite is true as well. If there are issues, challenges or problems in your relationship that you would like to ignore or hide; good luck! Not to be crash or uncaring, but you won’t be able to avoid them or stuff them away. These difficulties will rear their ugly heads. Building or remodeling your home brings out the best and worst in your relationship.
For example, Mark and Laura had challenges communicating effectively prior to building their new home. They knew this as a weakness in their marriage. They also knew it was going to take some extra effort to communicate productively. First, they let their building team (interior designer and general contractor) know they had challenges in this area and would need their support and guidance throughout the building process. Sandy was very effective in guiding them through the topics that needed to be talked through or problems to be resolved. She simply listened and kept the big picture goal in mind as she guided them.
We don’t want to alarm you or scare you away from your goals. In fact, we want to show you how to use the home construction process to strengthen your relationship. To do that, it’s important to realize that all relationships have strengths and weaknesses. We all have limitations and imperfections and we bring these into our relationships. Thus, they show up in the relationship and building process.
“People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.” Eleanor Roosevelt.
If you’re not willing to grow, develop and mature in your relationship, we strongly encourage to “pause and reflect” on why this is so. Reconsider if this is the time to start this project.There may be a better time to build or remodel.